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PLEASE PASS THIS INFO TO ANYONE YOU KNOW WHO TAKES PICTURES WITH THEIR CELL OR SMART PHONE AND POSTS THEM ON LINE.
 
We want everyone of you to watch this video and then be sure to share with all your family and friends. Its REALLY important info, about what your posting things on your cell phones can do TO YOU!!! Too much technology out there these days so beware...........

PLEASE TAKE THE TIME TO WATCH THIS VIDEO, AND TAKE THE RECOMMENDED PRECAUTIONS.
 
If you have children or grandchildren you NEED to watch this. I had no idea this could happen from taking pictures on the blackberry or cell phone. It's scary.

RECENT NEWS ITEM
2012 April 26: (Australia) Father jailed over bathroom hidden camera DETAILS

FEATURED LINK
Australian Child Abuse Survey
Survey of Child Abuse in Australia

Link to our sub-site on ShoutLife

The single most important thing you can do to protect your child from online predators is to NEVER ALLOW a computer to be in a child's bedroom, especially a teen. Computers belong in a public part of the house, like the kitchen or family room.
FEATURED POEM

A FRIGHTENED VOICE IN THE NIGHT

Written by:  Wanda Strickland © November 01, 2009

A frightened voice in the night
Will anyone understand your plight?
An un-uttered cry with no voice;
Wondering, do you have a choice?

Footsteps in the night to your bed.
Fear-filled, anguished, you dread.
Acts performed without consent;
Anger so deep…no where to vent.

As you endure another assault,
Thinking, somehow it’s my fault.
Emotions lying, no one cares;
Tighter, deeper, the web ensnares.

Feelings of worthlessness and shame,
Denying again, the relentless pain.
Intense feelings of rejection,
Constant fear of detection.

A lonely voice in the night;
Who’ll understand your plight?
In this world so all alone;
Never a sense, you belong.

A frightened voice in the night;
Lord, will You intervene tonight?
Questions… why’s go unanswered;
Your mind attacked with the absurd.


Bound by strongholds of doubt and fear;
Unable to trust, no one near.
Self-sufficiency becoming a must;
Coping to survive, you adjust.

 Missing God’s plan for your life;
Consumed by the pain and strife.
Yet, Christ is patiently calling;
Even in the midst of your bawling.

Come my child, you are so loved;
Chosen and valued my beloved.
Held and protected in my hand;
Someday, you will understand.


CLICK HERE for more poems on abuse by this poet.
NATALIE McDONNELL'S (nee PRICE) LATEST POEM

YOUR HEART WILL BREAK

Mother’s day comes once a year
For some of us, there are only just tears
Rejected by your own flesh and blood
Treated coldly, as if you would mud
We try to give our best
But it’s never good enough
Any advice we gave
Was only given with love
Many of us have learnt
Through our own silly mistakes
We tried, to guide our children right
By doing everything it takes
God’s spiritual guidance
Is the best book I know
It gives us all the answers and
And the way we need to go
Our kids can be very hurtful at times
The pain just goes on and on
Constantly in our minds
Mother’s nurture their children
From the day they were born
Losing the love of your siblings
It’s like losing a child
Suffering  emotional pain
A living death and you mourn
We try to be understanding
And know full well what
You go through
That’s why we try to help
We’ve been there many times too
Ignoring your mother is
Against God’s commands
It’s like turning away from
God’s teaching and refusing his hand
Honour and respect seems to
Have gone from your hearts
Sadly now, we’ve been ripped apart
So why let the devil destroy
Our love that’s been there
From the beginning
Satan knows he’s won
Because in actual fact you’re sinning
You may not like everything we say or do
But at the end of the day
We’re only thinking of you
Please take my advice before it’s too late
I would hate to see you go through it
Because your heart will break

© Natalie McDonnell May 2012


CLICK HERE for more poems by this poet, dealing with abuse in your life.

CRYING IN THE SILENCE
R. J. Burling ©02 January, 2009

Loneliness within her heart just seems to get her down
Does not want to live a life ex-pressed with only frown
But that’s how she feels.
Tortured by the past she left behind so long ago
Why she had to go through that she just does not know
Only pain she feels.            So she’s


CHORUS   
    Crying in the silence: a pain within her heart
    Crying in the silence: why did the feelings start.
    Crying in the silence: the pain hurts deep inside
    Crying in the silence: the shame she feels to hide.


No-one would believe her when she tried to tell her tale
They would turn and tell her it was just a fairytale
They just said she lied
Battered, bruised and shattered she just had to go alone
No one wants to hear the sound of pain that makes her groan
She just left and cried.        left her       
CHORUS

Doesn’t want to go on: she just feels that none could care
None to sit and talk about the pain she needs to share
No-one hears her call
Fate has dealt a blow to her she feels none understand
Wasn’t life supposed to be something that was grand
Wants to end it all.            Now she’s

CHORUS   
    Crying in the silence: a pain within her heart
    Crying in the silence: why did the feelings start.
    Crying in the silence: the pain hurts deep inside
    Crying in the silence: the shame she feels to hide.

CHORUS 2   
    Crying in the silence: where no-one feels her pain
    Crying in the silence: her heart is filled with pain
    Crying in the silence: she feels she can’t go on
    Crying in the silence.

Dedicated to the victims of abuse.

The video of the song is to be found on the Video page. This song may also be downloaded from the Song page.
ABUSE AND YOU
Signs to look out for
Family violence/abuse is not always obvious. Some key signs to look out for include:
• The person seems afraid of a family member
• The person has stopped seeing friends or family
• The person seems anxious or depressed, has lost confidence and is unusually quiet
• The person has physical injuries such as bruises, broken bones, sprains or cuts
• The person says that they are being pressured to do sexual things
• Their family member criticises or humiliates the person in front of other people.


How you can help
• Listen to what the person has to say and believe them
• Tell the person that the violence is not their fault
• Encourage the person to seek help
• Be patient and let them come to their own decisions

FOR MORE DETAILED INFORMATION
What differentiates a survivor from a victim is that a survivor has the ability to let go of what 'was' to survive what 'is'.
It is an alarming fact, especially in western nations, that abuse, especially of women and children (but not exclusively to them) is at such an alarming percentage of the population. What is so sad is that it is believed that for every case that is revealed, there could be as many as 5 (or more) that remain undetected or unreported.

This is a sad reflection upon western society. The perpetrators, in many cases, have convinced their victims that they (the victim) are the guilty person and if they dare to report it, they will be the one that is punished. Fear is the main weapon of the perpetrator and this is the main thing that we, as a society, must strive to overcome.

Society is equally to blame by ignoring the problem; pretending that the problem does not exist and even belittling victims who try to bring the fact before someone so as the problem can be dealt with. This is especially the case when a member of the family (or close friend) is the perpetrator, because the family feels they will be shamed by exposing the problem and would rather let it continue, scarring the victim for life, than to take action and deal with it.

It is very common in situations where one parent, with children, starts a new relationship and the new partner is a perpetrator (either known or unknown to them or society) and rather than lose their new partner, prefer to ignore the warning signs that their children may be displaying or trying to tell them about. 

The other sad fact is that a large percentage of the victims are made to believe (partly by society) that it is all in their mind and that people do not want to hear about their fictional stories. Along with this attitude is the belief that it must be something to do with them as there is no one else who has this problem.
WRONG!

On both accounts are these two beliefs very wrong. In most cases (probably greater than 99.5% of the cases) the victim is just that: the victim of the cold hearted desire of the perpetrator to inflict pain and suffering upon their victim so that they, the perpetrator, may gain some "sick" pleasure, by a variety of means including sexual, physical, verbal, emotional, financial, social, spatial, spiritual, mental and other forms of abuse.

In some countries, it is now mandatory to report suspicion of child abuse. That is a good step forward but it is highly questionable as to whether or not this is making a difference. The difference can only come when society, as a whole, realises that it is a problem and one that has a high social cost attached to it. Remember, for the victim, it is a life sentence.

With this project, we are trying to raise awareness of both the victims and society (in general) that abuse is not normal and is totally unacceptable.

WHAT IS HAPPENING ON THE SITE
21st March, 2012: There has been an update in the list of types of abuse as well as the links to get to this listing.

29th December, 2011: Added a link (in EXCTRA VIDEOS PAGE) to one of the best video stories for those who are into encouraging others. Make A Difference - The story of Teddy Stallard: a truth than cannot be ignored if you truly care about others.

25th October, 2011: We have added a link (Links Page) to an organisation called Origins Inc., an organisation to those victims of the abuse of forced adoption.

12th October, 2011: Natalie and her husband are now on the mission road. Her regular poetry will only come from time to time as they are moving around a lot so that they are able to help people, especially those who been victims of abuse.

11th September, 2011: One does not expect stories of slavery in a western country in this day and age but the shocking story today from England shatters that myth. See NEWS PAGE.

31st July, 2011: What an amazing milestone! Today I have uploaded Natalie's 1000th poem for this website. Over the last two and a half years this lady has shared her life experiences, many of them extremely personal, through her poetry, in order to help and encourage other victims of abuse. This work has been appreciated by so many people and has been a labour of love on her part. Congratulations Natalie.

30th June, 2011: A new resource link with very valuable information. Survivors of Incest Abuse and Rape - A very interesting single page that has a number of links to various aspects of abuse, including, rape, incest, abuse of the elderly and much more. The links in this site will take you to many other like minded sites.

4th May, 2011: Victims of abuse quite often feel contradictory emotions towards their abuser. In a case in the courts at present, read of one victims confusion over his abuser. STORY

14th April, 2011: Following yet another betrayal of Australian children in child care (see today's news link) it is time that an open enquiry in to community services in Australia was held. Nothing less than an unrestricted, national royal commission of enquiry would be acceptable for the true protection of our children.

22nd February, 2011: A video clip introducing the book "Angels In The Landfill" is now on YouTube and the link can be found in our Additional Videos page.

15th January, 2011: Sexting is the big danger facing our teens and we have added a great link into our resources page.

13th January, 2011: The site Kingdom Powered Kids was activated today. This group is being designed to restore self esteem to young victims of abuse. Whilst this  is only in the early developmental stages, we are encouraging people to provide feeback and input to this major project.

6th January, 2011: Following hard on our 2nd birthday of last Sunday, Natalie has achieved another milestone with her 800th poem for the site. Congratulations Natalie.

2nd January 2011: We celebrate two years of operations. See our current Newsletter for details.

1st January, 2011: Wishing all our team and supporters and users of this site a most wonderful New Year. May the year see you further released from your past.

23rd December, 2010: Please take a thought, as you prepare to celebrate Christmas, for those who will spend another Christmas in fear because of the abuse they suffer.

14th November, 2010: Today is a very special day for our organisation as we join with Natalie Price for a double celebration. Today is her birthday, but it is also her Wedding Day. May she be truly blessed. Natalie is our chief poet for the web site and a power worker behind the scene.

27th September, 2010: Our major poetry contributor has achieved yet another milestone today. She has now contributed 700 poems to the site (as of today). Her poetry continues to offer encouragement and blessing to a vast number of abuse victims.

24th September, 2010: We are starting to receive web addresses of reports into abuse. As we receive these, they will be placed on a new page of Abuse Reports so that people can look into these reports as may interest them.

7th September, 2010: Think you know what happens to your images? Who will see them? How they will affect you? Think again. This video depicts a teenage girl's experience of sexting. It highlights that once something is created in a digital format and then shared, you lose control over who sees it and what they do with it.

30th August, 2010: A new project is now underway for Crying In The Silence. It has been a long desire of the group to offer positive encouragement to young people, especially those who are victims of abuse (either directly or indirectly). Kingdom Powered Kids has been birthed and is now in development. The web access has been set up but, at present, there is othing there other than an introductory page as we will not have too much up there before the project is ready to be used.

7th July, 2010: I have just added a blog into the site from a gentleman call Brian Baker. What he has written here is to the shame of the judicial system in Australia and has got to be one of the most blatant form of official abuse that I have come across. Please read it.

3rd July, 2010: A new classification of abuse has been added to our list. History based abuse is that relating to ongoing harassment and abuse because of historical events that have occurred. The two major aspects of this are the pursuit of war crimes against men and women who, reportedly, committed offences against people during conflict, and the ongoing continuation of abuse that historically occurred that may be of a racial or other origin. See the link in our Information page


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