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Dreamcatchers For Abused Children
Dreamcatchers For Abused Children

The single most important thing you can do to protect your child from online predators is to NEVER ALLOW a computer to be in a child's bedroom, especially a teen. Computers belong in a public part of the house, like the kitchen or family room.
FEATURED POEM

A FRIGHTENED VOICE IN THE NIGHT

Written by:  Wanda Strickland © November 01, 2009

A frightened voice in the night
Will anyone understand your plight?
An un-uttered cry with no voice;
Wondering, do you have a choice?

Footsteps in the night to your bed.
Fear-filled, anguished, you dread.
Acts performed without consent;
Anger so deep…no where to vent.

As you endure another assault,
Thinking, somehow it’s my fault.
Emotions lying, no one cares;
Tighter, deeper, the web ensnares.

Feelings of worthlessness and shame,
Denying again, the relentless pain.
Intense feelings of rejection,
Constant fear of detection.

A lonely voice in the night;
Who’ll understand your plight?
In this world so all alone;
Never a sense, you belong.

A frightened voice in the night;
Lord, will You intervene tonight?
Questions… why’s go unanswered;
Your mind attacked with the absurd.


Bound by strongholds of doubt and fear;
Unable to trust, no one near.
Self-sufficiency becoming a must;
Coping to survive, you adjust.

 Missing God’s plan for your life;
Consumed by the pain and strife.
Yet, Christ is patiently calling;
Even in the midst of your bawling.

Come my child, you are so loved;
Chosen and valued my beloved.
Held and protected in my hand;
Someday, you will understand.


CLICK HERE for more poems on abuse by this poet.
NATALIE PRICE'S LATEST POEM
FAMILY TRUST IS DESTROYED

Nobody has the right
To violate your home
Or take something
That is not their own
It’s pretty rough
When anyone
Steals your stuff
Often, family members
Let you down this way
No matter
Whom they are
This is not okay
Whatever their reason
In a way, it’s a
Form of treason
Betrayal of
The worst kind
Your trust in them
Is destroyed
The environment
That you once lived in
Is no longer enjoyed
Can you imagine
What it’s like
To constantly
Hide your
Most precious
Possessions
Anger flares to think
They even dare
The people you love
Can let you down
They can turn against
You so easily
This is what I have found
Satan is evil
He is the cause
Of this upheaval
Family trust, is destroyed
This is the devil’s ploy

© Natalie Price March  9th 2010

CLICK HERE for more poems by this poet, dealing with abuse in your life.

CRYING IN THE SILENCE
R. J. Burling ©02 January, 2009

Loneliness within her heart just seems to get her down
Does not want to live a life ex-pressed with only frown
But that’s how she feels.
Tortured by the past she left behind so long ago
Why she had to go through that she just does not know
Only pain she feels.            So she’s


CHORUS   
    Crying in the silence: a pain within her heart
    Crying in the silence: why did the feelings start.
    Crying in the silence: the pain hurts deep inside
    Crying in the silence: the shame she feels to hide.


No-one would believe her when she tried to tell her tale
They would turn and tell her it was just a fairytale
They just said she lied
Battered, bruised and shattered she just had to go alone
No one wants to hear the sound of pain that makes her groan
She just left and cried.        left her       
CHORUS

Doesn’t want to go on: she just feels that none could care
None to sit and talk about the pain she needs to share
No-one hears her call
Fate has dealt a blow to her she feels none understand
Wasn’t life supposed to be something that was grand
Wants to end it all.            Now she’s

CHORUS   
    Crying in the silence: a pain within her heart
    Crying in the silence: why did the feelings start.
    Crying in the silence: the pain hurts deep inside
    Crying in the silence: the shame she feels to hide.

CHORUS 2   
    Crying in the silence: where no-one feels her pain
    Crying in the silence: her heart is filled with pain
    Crying in the silence: she feels she can’t go on
    Crying in the silence.

Dedicated to the victims of abuse.

The video of the song is to be found on the Video page. This song may also be downloaded from the Song page.
ABUSE AND YOU
Signs to look out for
Family violence/abuse is not always obvious. Some key signs to look out for include:
• The person seems afraid of a family member
• The person has stopped seeing friends or family
• The person seems anxious or depressed, has lost confidence and is unusually quiet
• The person has physical injuries such as bruises, broken bones, sprains or cuts
• The person says that they are being pressured to do sexual things
• Their family member criticises or humiliates the person in front of other people.


How you can help
• Listen to what the person has to say and believe them
• Tell the person that the violence is not their fault
• Encourage the person to seek help
• Be patient and let them come to their own decisions

FOR MORE DETAILED INFORMATION
What differentiates a survivor from a victim is that a survivor has the ability to let go of what 'was' to survive what 'is'.
It is an alarming fact, especially in western nations, that abuse, especially of women and children (but not exclusively to them) is at such an alarming percentage of the population. What is so sad is that it is believed that for every case that is revealed, there could be as many as 5 (or more) that remain undetected or unreported.

This is a sad reflection upon western society. The perpetrators, in many cases, have convinced their victims that they (the victim) are the guilty person and if they dare to report it, they will be the one that is punished. Fear is the main weapon of the perpetrator and this is the main thing that we, as a society, must strive to overcome.

Society is equally to blame by ignoring the problem; pretending that the problem does not exist and even belittling victims who try to bring the fact before someone so as the problem can be dealt with. This is especially the case when a member of the family (or close friend) is the perpetrator, because the family feels they will be shamed by exposing the problem and would rather let it continue, scarring the victim for life, than to take action and deal with it.

It is very common in situations where one parent, with children, starts a new relationship and the new partner is a perpetrator (either known or unknown to them or society) and rather than lose their new partner, prefer to ignore the warning signs that their children may be displaying or trying to tell them about. 

The other sad fact is that a large percentage of the victims are made to believe (partly by society) that it is all in their mind and that people do not want to hear about their fictional stories. Along with this attitude is the belief that it must be something to do with them as there is no one else who has this problem.
WRONG!

On both accounts are these two beliefs very wrong. In most cases (probably greater than 99.5% of the cases) the victim is just that: the victim of the cold hearted desire of the perpetrator to inflict pain and suffering upon their victim so that they, the perpetrator, may gain some "sick" pleasure, by a variety of means including sexual, physical, verbal, emotional, financial, social, spatial, spiritual, mental and other forms of abuse.

In some countries, it is now mandatory to report suspicion of child abuse. That is a good step forward but it is highly questionable as to whether or not this is making a difference. The difference can only come when society, as a whole, realises that it is a problem and one that has a high social cost attached to it. Remember, for the victim, it is a life sentence.

With this project, we are trying to raise awareness of both the victims and society (in general) that abuse is not normal and is totally unacceptable.

WHAT IS HAPPENING ON THE SITE
1st March, 2010: White arrow have, today, launched their album, SOCIALLY RESTRUCTURED, with some definite differences. The band, in an effort to promote the fight against abuse, have made it totally leagl to pirate the album and share it with their friends. Yes, you read correctly: people are encouraged to copy the album and share it with friends. That is just how strongly the members of the band feel about the horrors of abuse - they want to be sure that many more people become aware of the horrors of abuse. All of the songs done especially for this project are on the album plus more.

*** WARNING *** The words of many of the songs may offend you, as the issues are rather shocking. For victims of abuse, this may bring back horrific memories for you. For those who are not victims, you should be shocked at what victims too often have to go through. ***

16th February, 2010: We have upgraded our news access. The default news is now by date, with the latest stories at the top. However, there is a link that will allow you to look at stories by country as well, so that you can choose which way you view stories.

6th February, 2010: Today, 3 new songs have been added to the site. These include the two that were mentioned on the 11th January plus an additional song entitled Give Me A Reason To Live. These songs can be found in the Project Songs page and are available to be played online.

27th January, 2010: The site now features 5 poets as contributors. Four new poems were added today to the site and, whilst they were all written back in 1997, their message is as relevant today as it was then.

11th January, 2010: There are two more project songs that have been added to the site. At this point in time, the words only are on the site and the songs themselves will be uploaded in the next few weeks. You can find these songs by clicking on the ALL PROJECT SONGS button on the site navigation bar. Both of these songs (Parasites Of Society and Drunken Abuser) deal with abuse in the home and are by White Arrow.

3rd January, 2010: We have made temporary changes to the play list page as there appears to be some problem, as  Playlist.com claimed we did not have permission to use any of the songs, including the ones we actually own ourselves. Our songs have play buttons on them and the other 5 will remain temporarily unavailable until the matter is resolved.

2nd January, 2010: A milestone in our history as the concept and purpose of Crying In The Silence has, today, been achieved as we turn 1 year old. MORE

Well, she has finally done it. Poem number 2 for the 1st December 2009 (He's Taking You For A Fool) has become Natalie's 400th poem for this web site. Now that has been some achievement. She has poured out her heart and her experiences to show other victims that they are not alone and we give a huge round of applause for this mighty contribution to the site.

A very interesting legal advice document has been linked from our Information Page regarding property rights of de facto relationships in Australia. The article is worth a read for those who may not realise what having someone live with them can actually mean in the end.

An incredible video clip has now been linked from our videos page. Entitled The Home Run, this is a true video of encouragement as to what we can do if we are really genuine in our lives.

A most recent addition to the site is a link to the Child Exploitation and Online Protection (CEOP) Centre in the UK. This site has a wealth of information on child abuse, as well as a "most wanted" section of "missing" child sex offenders. There is a great range off advise and information. Check the LINKS page for this one.

News is back on the move again after the major disruption we had in September. Stories stopped coming in for a while but they are now rolling in again.

From the RESOURCES page there is now a link to a page where we are featuring books that deal with abuse. Two authors have already submitted information and we are expecting more

There has been a couple of really great poems from Wanda Strickland added to the site along with the steady flow of poetry based information and experience from Natalie Price. We feature Natalie's latest poem on this page with each new one she submits.

A new encouragement video is found in the VIDEO page. It is a video of one father's dedication to his disabled son. If this one doesn't inspire you, very little will.

An interesting question has been raised in the most recent blog entry (28th Oct, 2007). It would be good to see some of you who have been abused as partners in a relationship (regardless of the abuse) to answer this gentleman's question.

We have now added a web page translation service to the site. By choosing the language required from the  Babel Fish® link at the bottom of each page, that page will be translated into your chosen language. This has become an essential part of our site as we grow internationally into non-English speaking countries. The language then remains active for the site. To return to the original English page, reload the home page from your bookmarks, or in the BACK button List.

A Closer Look at the Common Signs of Domestic Abuse (With special focus on Childhood Abuse): Regardless of the type of abuse a child experiences, it will leave scars. And they may not be visible at first, but if not dealt with and remedied (ie taken out of the abusive situation and counseling thereafter) these scars can later split wide open, leaving emotional bloodshed on us all.  Why ‘all’ of us? Because when a child is at risk of, or actually being abused, our silence is complicity and then we’re as guilty as anyone.. - Read the next article by Carlyn

Constructive Dialogue and Disagreement: There are numerous ways to discuss things and disagree with someone without being abusive or causing pain - and I’m going to explore some of those ways, as well as their benefits, our responsibilities as Christians, and ways to deal with negativity, hostility and abuse. - Read the next article by Carlyn

In her second article, Is Your Child Being Abused?, Carlyn  gives some very chilling thoughts about this sadly prevalent subject that is worse than indemnic. It should be compulsory reading for everyone.

We have now linked in the Kanawayhitowin project for Canadian Aborigines which is adressing the abuse of women in their culture. This resource site is really worth looking at.


By choosing the language required from the  Babel Fish® link below or at the bottom of each page, that page will be translated into your chosen language. This has become an essential part of our site as we grow internationaly into non-English speaking countries. The language then remains active for the site. To return to the original English page, reload the home page (that is this page) from your bookmarks, or in the BACK button List.




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