CRYING IN THE SILENCE - THE SONG

In my experience with victims of abuse, there are a lot of tears. They sometimes spend hours crying about what has happened but the crying is done alone (or in the silence) because they feel that nobody cares or that people will say they do not tell the truth. It is a very sad thing to cry alone. Children, especially, are told that they must never tell anyone, because people will be angry at the child for doing these things because the people they tell won't understand them and will blame them for doing something wrong. From this song, one of the other ladies who has been so strong in prayer for me admitted to me that she was the victim of abuse herself and she felt the title described her feelings at the time so perfectly. So that is why I called it Crying In The Silence.



The song style is deliberate. The words have been designed and used to endeavour to capture the "heart feelings" of an atypical victim. Whilst fully realising that every victim will be different, there is a common thread of isolation, loneliness, despair, guilt, victimisation and shame that appears to be a feature of most of them. Sadly, that despair can drive a victim to suicide, under the false belief that death is the most peaceful solution.

The use of the 3 part harmony helps to build the song as it goes. It is also designed to stress the ending of the song. The second chorus at the end suddenly drops out of harmony at the start of the last line and then the cuts off into silence as a life is sadly ended. The silence echoes the plight of too many victims of abuse.

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It is a sad reflection on our society that we have such a high, mostly unreported, level of abuse, particularly, though not exclusively, on females of all ages, some as young as twelve months.

The really sad part is that most of these people are made to feel, by the perpetrators, that they, the victims, are the ones to blame and that they are the ones who should be punished.

The story might have some twists from individuals but the result is the same; those who are the victims of this horrendous crime are the ones who are expected to bear the brunt of societies choice to ignore the problem and pretend it is not there.

Thus the victims are forced to suffer in silence for something that is not their fault and they feel that they are probably alone in what has happened. We are supposed to live in an enlightened world but still this cone of silence remains attached to such victims.

With this song I am endeavouring to get a message to the victims and to those who choose to ignore their story, that they are not alone and that there are many, many sufferers out there who can truly understand. They also need to be aware that there are  also many people out there who, at least in part, understand their plight and are only too willing to listen and to help where they can. No, they cannot undo what has been done but they can help the victims to regain the dignity that was violently stolen from them by those who used them for their own selfish gratification.

It is also my message that there is one who can take away the pain of abuse and that is Jesus. Not the wishy-washy Jesus that is bandied about so readily in our world today, but the real one.

This song is dedicated to those victims.